During
a seminar, a woman asked,
"How do I know if I Am With The Right Partner?"
"How do I know if I Am With The Right Partner?"
The
author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It
depends. Is that your partner?"
In
all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
"Let
me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your
mind" replied the author.
Here's
the answer.
Every
relationship has a cycle…
In
the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies.
Falling
in love wasn't hard.
In
fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have
to do anything. That's
why it's called "falling" in love.
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People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened to you.
Falling
in love is a passive and spontaneous experience.
But
after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades.
It's
a natural cycle of Every Relationship.
Slowly
but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not
always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of
being cute, drive you nuts.
The
symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic
difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or
even angry subsequent stage.
At
this point, you and/or your partner might start asking,
"Am I with the Right Person?"
"Am I with the Right Person?"
This
is when relationships start breaking down.
People
blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment.Extramarital
fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. Sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
Infidelity is the most common. Sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But
the answer to this dilemma DOES NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies
within it !
I'm
not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And
TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.
But,
you'd be in the same situation again, a few days/years later.
Because,
(Now,
here's the important point to think of :)
"The
key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's
learning to love the Person you found in the RIGHT WAY."
Falling
in love is a passive and spontaneous experience.
But,
SUSTAINING the same love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have
to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy.
And
most importantly, it demands WISDOM.
You
have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work and Make no mistake about it!
Love
is NOT a mystery.
Love
is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember
this always:
"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! "
"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! "
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